I think the only concerning point is 3 - is that frequent? In my own relationship at 5. However - even now,almost at 14 months my family still don't know about him - for similar reasons to yours and other problems in my family.
IMO it is too early for 4. For the pictures - that's not a sign of anything Just some people dislike taking pictures of themselves or other people, I'd probably leave my BF if he wanted to post pictures on FB with me, I find it ultra cheesy Quote:. Originally Posted by JiltedJane. Lots of diffrerent people are used to different speeds. You haven't stated anything about his past relationships, but I would assume that he might think 5 months isn't too much of a long time.
I am personally in a 5 month relationship and from the very beginning we both went at an incredibly fast pace. He basically made us exclusive from the first hour we met in person after 1 night of texting. However my previous relationships have never been anything like that. Different people have different past relationships that form their ideas and expectations of current relationships.
There's no need to rush in to things if you are willing to really let it go somewhere more serious. At least now you know when he says I love you it'll be real, unlike people who say it because they think their partner would feel better. As for the parents thing, being 30 I would imagine he's tired of introducing people to his parents over and over again, he probably wants to feel serious until he takes that step. You never know, sometimes he could be getting vibes from you that you don't even know you give off.
I see nothing glaringly wrong about your relationship and see a lot of good things.
When he pulls back, how long does it last and now often? What does pulling back look like? Has he mentioned the word "love" when talking to you? Many guys when leading up the the I love you's will throw the word around to "warm up". The rest I wouldn't worry about at this stage.
It's still pretty early to get parents involved and to talk about distant future. Many guys hate pictures.
periocenter.ru/wp-content/garvin/xida-durak-podkidnoy-znakomstvo.php Try not to compare yourselves to others. My bf and I have taken things more slowly than others but I can't tell you the number of couples who progressed super quickly and are now broken up. The good seems to outweigh the bad. Have fun and let things flow naturally. Try not to overthink or compare. Last edited by hippychick3; 29th April at 2: In terms of his past relationships: Before me there was a chick he dated for 8 months only 2 exclusively and none of his friends ever met her.
He said he didn't want to bring her around and eventually dumped her. With me he asked to be exclusive after 4 dates and brought me to a large party with most of his friends on date 5.
As for the rubber band thing. The first time was for about a week, the second was for 2 days. He usually blames it on work because his job sucks. For warming up to ILY, he has said things like "all I want to do is make you happy", " I really like you", "I want you" So he was there for your birthday.
Will he spend it with you? So he spends time with your friends. Do they know you, do you hang out together? OP, I've dated a dude somewhat similar to yours. No plans for travel, no friends of his around, literally missed to meet his parents. It's not the parents, but the plans and not wanting to do stuff with me, like plans more than just going to see a concert together.
I've been dating my guy for months now. With me he asked to be exclusive after 4 dates and brought me to a large party with most of his. Tasha has been dating Sam for 3 months and it has been the best time in her life. By mapping out the stages you can know what to expect and of your pet peeves don't hold off till 3 years after the wedding to bring it up.
Anyways, it is up to you to do the math. All I know is I am over 30 and a dude who doesn't know what he wants is not for me. I am driven, I'm a goal getter and can't stand dudes who just float around. Forget the first two months — the small talk during this period is restricted to lighter fare. Rare is the occasion when we subject our partner to the problems that transpire throughout an average day. We shield them because we are afraid of being a burden.
As the relationship closes in on six months however, the tendency is to trust your instinct to share. The reaction displayed on both sides is crucial. Do you care to hear about the minutiae of her job? Is it boring when she drones on about problems at home with family members? The answer you give will determine whether you are a candidate for commitment with your current mate beyond six months. Signs that the relationship is on the decline vary from the blatant to the obscure. For example, there is no need to inform you that if your girlfriend has a slew of annoying habits after six months, the situation will not improve.
In a similar vein, if you discover that every date is degenerating into a conflict over petty matters, the relationship is not worth the investment — even if the sex is superb and plentiful. By six months, you should be at the point where you no longer fantasize about other women — in her presence. Beware of the wandering eye syndrome. Sow your oats — but not within the confines of a relationship. If you feel the need to pimp, dump the girlfriend.
Until you can deliver on the monogamy front, she deserves better. And you will never be happy with her while your thoughts are elsewhere. Roam if you want to — nobody should be chained down to a relationship. Have you and your girlfriend made any plans for the future? Even as a fun exercise in bed after sex — do you talk about the long-term direction of the relationship?
Perhaps the most important sign that the first six months were a product of ephemeral passion is the lack of discussion about the next six months. If your vision of the future does not include your girlfriend, the relationship is in question. A final tip for men approaching the vaunted milestone. Without overemphasizing the occasion, plan a special night out with your girlfriend. It took him a while to get it, and he told me to get comfortable and show him the photos or the brand name so he can know what to buy.
Then he left and got back which exactly what I want.
And what should I do next, trying to get it back to casual level or carry on with serious vibes? Should I expect something like a relationship from him? Only he knows and can answer the question, we see all too many times a man will act like a BF, but TELL you otherwise. So now he is relaxed and enjoying your company because there are no strings attached.
I say go with the flow and maintain your social life. You have the best of both worlds. He sounds like he really cares about you and treats u with deep respect. Just keep your options open and be grateful for this man while u are still free to date others. He works in the afternoon and evening, sometime in the weekend too while I work from 8am to 5pm. So he always tries to spend time with me whenever he can. Also, He cares about other guys that I meet and seem to be jealous when he sees the texts I get from them. A few days ago, there was a guy, who is our mutual friend and also likes me, texted me and asked about the football schedule.
He saw it then when I replied to that guy he went quiet, taciturn. It took him a while to get back to normal mode. He has you, like he wants to have you. He has no inventive to take the next step. Besides him and you agreed to be casual. So the one thing i wouldnt do is act like a gf. Just act as a friend and do keep on dating other guys. Say your feelings have changed and you would like to try and how he feels about that.
When will the ladies get a clue?! He will never make you his girlfriend.