I just found out he has gotten into amphetamines while he has been on this job, reason being to stay awake for the long hours and to cope with the stress of being away from home. He has used drugs and dealt in the past, he now just wants to come back buy a gun and deal again. Whereas before, he had wanted to continue the honest living and have us move in together.
I tend to be very caring and take care of the people I love and I genuinely love him. Already I have noticed changes, communication is a lot less, when there is he is in a bad mood or experiencing anxiety, when I call his phone goes straight to voicemail—a distance is forming. He has been asking if I can take it on…the fact he wants to deal again…from what I learned in love, a woman stands behind her man. I have been a dealer 7 years and was in a relationship for the last 4.
She liked that I was home all the time, could buy her a car and diamonds and go out for dinner every night, and when we would party, there was never a shortage of dope, we got free shit all the time, respected anywhere we went in town… like Henry Hill from from.
I trust him, I feel safe around him. He always puts my needs first and is a gentlemem. Is that the kind of man I want to be with and confine in? I have no doubts that in the future he would support me, even a family perhaps. Could this really work? You know what doll, if you are happy then stay with him! He has changed for the best as I knew him before he was a dealer.
See how it goes and if he still treats you like a queen then stay with him! He was in love with me and i am wifey… but he cheats like all the time… so Im just over it. I hate when hes gone for long periods of time. He get kidnapped, and people text my phone saying they are gonna kill him… mind you this is long distance so its like what am I to do. I want to know though, the way I met him was pure fluke. Is this him testing me or does he take our relationship very serious? He constantly contradicts himself.
Or will I get used to it? He treats me like a queen and keeps his business separate from family life. I have only ever had one complaint about what he does and he took what I said into consideration. He is a great boyfriend and has been there for me through everything. I think it depends on the person rather then the business.
I feel your comment. He treats me with much respect and always puts me first. Its almost like he worship the ground I walk on. So I may have to leave the relationship and put me and my daughter first. I as well have a great job. Ive been trying to find someone who understood! He travels majority of the time and i cant talk to him as much and it drives me crazy. He is an avid poker player and comes to my job which is a casino and stays at the hotel weeks at a time when he isnt out and when i say i get so irritated trying to keep his attention and focus!!!
Now in a few weeks ill have him all to my self for a week for vacation birthday trip but im nervous. But the crazy thing about this whole situation is my grandparents like him my mom and my friends but i just cant shake that worry girlfriend syndrome…. I just have to say thank you for posting this it helps me during rough times all these are true except mine is Johnny on the spot more like a family man and lives a double life.
This is so true to a t. This has helped me a lot I wish there was more… Every time I feel bad or lonely or second priority I read this and it makes me feel better my boyfriends a great man a family man just lives a double life. I guess my question is , is there more I can read up on like this this is the only article that is right on point. I have been in a relationship with a DD for one year and I am head over heels in love. Enlighten me — perhaps it will bring me to my senses and give me the wake up call I need.
If he made a mistake or is being framed for something that was done such as an ambush on a delivery, or a robbery etc they flee because they are going to suffer. The issue is, their loved ones including you are now in danger as well. My boyfriend was being framed for an incident before he got out of the streets and was acting super weird, turns out he was contemplating fleeing and staging a fight with me.
Thank God it was sorted out and he was fine. This article is spot on. When I met my boyfriend he was highly ranked in the drug dealing industry with royal and respected blood in his veins. Everyone knew his family. He was in prison more than once. Turns out in the end it was all for that. Then there is also the fact that you are now an accessory to the game. If something goes wrong for him and he is in trouble you are officially in danger. He paid his dues and was given honorable leave with promised protection from the big boss whoever that may be, that is just what I call him.
My boyfriend is a dd and we had starte ddating 3 weeks ago and im kind of scared bc i know nothing about that life and im learning pretty quick.. He seems nice but i know that will all change eventually like today he had asked me to give addicts that i see with marks on there arms his number.. He is controlling and i want to end the relationship but im scared.. Anyone have advice on life after drug dealing? A year ago he moved cities to start a new life and business, but he still displays most of these characteristics listed here. Can someone change from this lifestyle?
I love my boyfriend so much but this hustling thing has to stop! I have dreams of my own and I really want him to be in my path but the drugs has to GO. All 10 points were pretty accurate, and it takes a certain type of woman to be able to date a DD. Yes, excitement never ends, but you have to be prepared for anything that comes up whatever it may be. My ex who I was with for almost 4 years was a higher up DD…sold only amounts in Pounds.
It took a while for me to adjust into the lifestyle.. Trust is more important than money in this game.. I never did any of the drugs, except for pot I would smoke once a while when the good stuff comes in.. He was very respectful and sweet to me.. So glad I came across this page! I also happen to be the girlfriend of a DD. I have known him since I was 10 years old. We grew up together and even went to the same church as well where I met him ironically as the years went by we saw less due to different schools, later he drops out. I moved to Florida for college and came right back after freshmen year to be with family and friends.
Once I saw him at a party, I knew right then and there that I wanted to go out with him…if only I knew what I was getting myself into!!!! He is in a tight nit group of people who he does business with. But no matter how much he spends on me, he still fails to male me happy.
I have told him multiple times that I just want his attention…! I find myself waiting on him to do anything with because he is always waiting on someone to come over. Do you people not plan ahead or realize he is a person to? I absolutely loathe the phone calls. They always seem to ring at the worst time! Now given, he is a hard worker with now a real tax paying job. I just feel like I need time for me. He is very good to me and I know beyond a doubt he has never cheated,but this dealing thing is taking a toll on me.
I have tried to make friends and to go out, but he either gets insecure or plain mad at me. Yet he leaves all the time. I feel so horrible for writing negatively about him, I love this guy! But these are my true feelings…. And that is even worse…thank you again for the article! I wished I read it two years ago. This is so far the absolute truth from time to time I reread it to make me feel better yes the constant phone ringing.
I love him to pieces but the constant phone calls and leaving in the middle of the night is awful. How do I trust someone who constantly feels they need to pick that over me. I have been dating my bf for a year he has been selling for a long time. When I first met him he told me he is a weed dealer but only small amount of weed. We clashed a lot but those misunderstanding seems to make us get closer. He call me names I just ignore him.
He is a smart guy and he can do way better rather than selling weed all his life and I told him that. I continue my life, I try not to be affected of his absence I have nothing to loss. Why put yourself into a mess. I do not want his money or what he can get some girl. He os just sexy and I am 9 years older than he is. I just want to suck him off and I want him to ride me and that we do this once a week.
I want his mouth and I want to touch him and have rough sex with him. And then I go back home. My father sold drugs on and off my entire childhood unless he was incarcerated up until I was years old. I grew up with nice stuff but lived in low income neighborhoods. He would take me, my mom, and my little sister all across the east coast wherever he was at at the time and we would stay in hotels to visit him.
Usually we would be in Boston, Miami, or dc. He was the man and the shooter, I think they call what he was a wholesale distributor. When he got jammed up by a hoe druggie I was crushed. I had so much anger in me towards him I stopped visiting him or writing him. This caused many many problems later on as well. My mom and my sisters were really poor when he left, she pulled the single mom role off pretty damn good tho. Went from traveling place to place in nice hotels and having the newest clothes to owning one pair of kicks a year and living in the projects. Me and him had major issues in my teens.
He tried to make up for all the time lost but I still hated him for putting us through hell for all those years. He cheated on my mom countless times growing up, did drugs in front of me, drank heavily, beat my moms ass, and put holes all through the walls in the house. Me and him had constant fighting and the usual fist fight. All the while she stayed with him, they separated legally for years while he was locked but they are together still to this day.
I thought this was how life was supposed to be so into adulthood I dated men who were similar in some way. He treated me right but I ended up fucking him over and left him. Typical and I apologized,were good friends now tho. Every other guy I had sold drugs, some of them were junkies too. That shit has a downfall.
That refers mostly to lower level drug dealers which is majority of which who I dated but is only MY perspective. They will take your car and pick up one of the side bitches and ride around in it. And definitely avoid if you have never been exposed to the streets because they will think ur a green bitch an get labeled a mark.
I refuse to date another dope man but for some reason they like me a lot, and are constantly in view. I am still a nurse working two jobs, almost finished with my schooling to be an RN; and still dating a DD, same one. He had gotten pretty bad in a lot of ways , while I think the situations I have been through have made me stronger and able to juggle a lot in life at once. He has started using his product, which he always dabbled but now he has a serious heroin addiction.
By some miracle he has been able to continue selling but I notice the money is not the same , I am getting stuck with bills and the excuses as just… Overwhelming. I have many goals he has none. Many times I have signed him up for school and technical programs but the motivation just is not there. He wants to end up in and out of jail for the rest of his life. The sucky part is we share an apartment and we are kind of stuck together until the lease is up. All if this was good information.
In the beginning the quick money is awesome and the attention he gives you. I am a beautiful woman that came from a corporate background. I now have PTSD. The lying, cheating and drama never stops. Both turned out to be the same. I left the second guy because at least I learned from first one. Both of them got into it and were instantly hooked into the business. So you start feeling kinda neglected or his feelings changed. So then trust issues begin to start.
I find clients to be the harder to deal with. End users are selfish and impulsive, not to mention inconsiderate.
She wants that trip to miami, and expects percent of your time. And the best and most loyal clientele are your closest friends. You already trust each other. But they are not friends to the person presuming to date the dd. I have so much money. I have so many beautiful friends.
I am approached by gorgeous women every day. I am so fucking lonely because of the type of people whom write articles like this. I feel on edge and uneasy. But he lied to me for 7 weeks!! We have such good chemistry and a great connection. Is he caught up in soft or hard drugs? Does he really love me? Before it was okay and now that the truth has sunk in, I feel mentally down ;. You have to go away. I was eith a DD in a very passionnate love relationship. But it changed me and i will never be the same again. I dated a drug dealer well..
I supported him inside the jail until he came out I know he loves me and I love him.. Until he came out to jail he started to lie and I can feel his cheated on me.. He keep telling me no.. It makes me mad frustrated and hurt! I dated a hustler from the age of so a course of 9 years. Aside from being a hustler he wast very abusive and controlling. I had good times with him but the bad out weighed the good in this scenario. You take a lot of chances dating a hustler.
Along with being a hustler the nice cars brings a lot of attention which is primarily the reason of you your man being in the game. You deal with a lot pullovers from cops. You basically live a double life because your man will not allow you have friends. When I dated my man I was well taken care of whatever I wanted I got but those were all material things that were bought.
Yea I had nice things but I was also lonely. You also have to move constantly and nothing is ever promised whatever you put on the relationship you will not get it back at all. I loved my man with all my heart even more than myself at times. But in the reality of the situation is that there are no guarantees. You may even loose your self along the way. The stress is not with it maximize your youth and utilize your potential. The more money a hustler has the more females he has. He spends a few hours with me on the weekend and has his friend handle his business while we are together for a little bit.
I always feel safe, he takes care of me when I get to drunk or to high. He does get jealous but he gets over it cause he knows he was over reacting. I was with a drug dealer for 3 years. For the firste 6 months, I had no clue. I just tought he really enjoyed getting togheter with his friends… With the yeard I started accepting everything and understanding the situation!
We want to buy a house… We need more money than our 2 day jobs… Hes doing this for us. I was a drug dealer girlfriend. A couple of them. I get raided hid name is on my record as an alias I lost custody of my kids. I dated a DD for the very first time this year we met through social media. At first he came off like a respectable man he was 17 and I was 18 at the time. The reason that I dated him was because he was nothing like what you described on the list, but that slowly changed.
When we turned 5 months he became a different man. I gave up two of my jobs in order to live with him and take care of his needs. My point is that I was a real ride or die for him like they say they need and all I got in return was a cheater and a compulsive liar who was always late and always let me down.
Cheater and a compulsive liar! He came out of prison into my home he never paid for but always had money for the latest trends and designer clothes xx. I am wife of a dealer. I knew his history and accepted it. It was his past. I wasnt stupid though. Addicts fall off the wagon sometimes. More times than he admits. According to him he recreationally used off and on for a few months but when he was laid off in January he went full on. I found out 3 months later after a lot of suspicion. I admit I was prepared to leave.
The fact that I stayed is testament to how much I love him. He knew it was time to talk about it. For a few days we got it All out there. It was past due. Became closer and I felt a part of his life. Then he started selling again. His phone never stops. Most of them owe him money because he has been too easy on them when they are short.
So we suffer instead. Bills go unpaid and we borrow money and never climb out of the hole he dug. And only one or two of His know. None of my friends know. I literally have no one.
This helped me this evening! My blog has followed the past 3 years being with a man who deals drugs and despite standing by a prison sentence and having a baby he has continued his lifestyle of dealing. Not to mention the cheating and nastiness! I want a better life xx. I was with a dealer for a year. Split up last month. I totally agree with this post. I think it varies for different types of dealers. I was already in love with him at this point and then the alarm bells started to ring. It all started with his paranoia, he would get paranoid just by me looking at him in the wrong way or being polite to his friends.
I have a kind and generous heart and he took full advantage of that. He would talk to me as and when he felt like it and accuse me of doing him wrong when I stuck by his side through everything, even leant him the money to pay off debts when he was scared of people coming to hurt him. He met the man and moved into his house to work off the debt and like an idiot I still stuck by him, he ended up on the streets and ended up having to live in a squat on a flea ridden matress which I stayed there with him, helped him clean up the flat.
He got pressured into doing it again and I was out of the picture. He would start treating me like shit and everytime we spent time together he would get shit for it and threats would even be made towards me because of it. He would slag me off to them and slag them off to me like a little bitch! At the time I thought he was a man but since ive split up with him ive realised what a coward he really is!
I try to feel sorry for him! If only he could see it the way I do! My love for him has turned to hate and I now see him as a coward and I feel sorry for him in a way! Its horrible and when you move on to better things you realize how pathetic it really is. My partners a DD, had been for a long time. I slowly found out the longer our relationship went on, by the time I really knew he was still selling it was too late, I was in love.
Now we have a baby. I have no plans of leaving him but I will if it continues for too long.
My sit down conversation with a young girl whose careful words and chilling memories paint the picture of what it's really like to date a drug dealer in Surrey. "My boyfriend is a hardcore drug dealer, so when he doesn't text back for days it's really scary.". The first whisper reads, "I find it so hot that my boy ".
When I sat back down I realized how desensitized I had gotten to all this craziness. I started thinking and it really freaked me out. How long was all of this going on for? We dated for a little over two years so for most of that time, I guess. Not to say it was like that all the time. You have no idea, like the way these guys think, and plan, and scheme, and retaliate, I could honestly write a movie.
This is going to sound really weird but these guys were sharp like they knew exactly what they were doing. So you had some sort of respect for these guys? I mean yeah, I guess. And even with my boyfriend, it was hard to separate the person he was with me and with them, you know? I mean this is the guy who would hold my hand at a movie theater!
Yeah, he was a sweet boyfriend but he a terrible person—which should make him a terrible boyfriend too. Was that realization what led to you two breaking up? It was a combination of a few things but it started out with my younger brother. My boyfriend used to always be very protective of my younger brother.
He always would like ask him about like what schools he wanted to go to, and what he wanted to be, and made jokes about how he was too smart to ever go down the wrong path. He like encouraged it, and I was so taken aback and so angry. We got into a lot of fights over that. Like, how could he do that?! How could he do that? The same kid he said was like his younger brother, who wanted a better life for himself, how could he let him get into the drug life? What were the other things that led to the breakup? I just like smartened up, I guess? No one talks to my girl or me like that.
And just I so distinctly remember just feeling so happy and proud to be with him—and I felt so bad for her. And then like two years later, so like in the last few months of me dating my boyfriend, something stupid happened and my boyfriend ended up in the hospital. And I hated that. That was a big turning point for me. So is that when you two broke up?
What really pushed me over the edge was pauses he just he crossed a line. He got really deep into that world and there was no bringing him back. How was it like after you broke up with him? I mean I was a mess. I loved him and we broke up. And it was really, really hard. And I almost got back together with him a few times. But I remember, like a month or so after we broke up, my first cousin had a baby. And I just remember seeing her and her husband in the hospital and so happy starting their family—and I wanted that. And I just realized how I would never want my boyfriend to be the father of my children.
Pauses I really want to say yes. I will always care for him and want to protect him and I know he would do the same. That kind of stuff scares me though, you know? He is the love of my life, I know it. And I just wish I never met him and never got caught in all of this.
I wish laughs I wish I never went on that walk. What advice do you have to anyone dating a drug dealer?
You want cute little memories with your boyfriend and do couple-y things together and have a happy life.